Your negative critical self-talk can and will create a dangerous pattern that’s difficult to break. Setting self-boundaries (saying no) towards critical negative self-talk can start the positive process of being aware of your unkind words or behavior toward yourself. We tend to be more critical/hurtful towards ourselves than others.
Critical self-talk/criticism is common and comes from an unhealthy place that needs to be dealt with and not allowed to linger in thoughts/behaviors that become disruptive. Self-talk can be cheerful and supportive, as well as it can be negative and self-defeating (getting in the way of growth). However, human nature seems to be driven more by negative self-talk that takes us to and keeps us in a place of need.
If your negative critical self-talk has you in a place that is overwhelming, struggling, feeling guilty, feeling shameful…saying things like “I’m a complete failure” or “I can’t do anything right” or Nobody likes me,” it’s time to seek professional help. A professional therapist can help you recognize and reduce your negative self-talk. Also, working with a professional therapist can help you identify and develop coping strategies. If you are experiencing any suicidal ideation, it is imperative to speak with a mental health professional. Help is just a call away.
