What are we missing out on when we are experiencing anxiety? How much of our time is spent worrying about things out of control? What else could we be doing instead of stressing over things we can’t change?
Unfortunately, when these feelings arrive, we can get in a pattern of unhealthy thoughts. These thoughts then rob of us being present in the moment and enjoying life as we should. God’s word tell us in Matthew 6:27, “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?”
Take a R.E.S.T.
Rest is an easy way to remind you of what to do when these unwanted feelings and thought arise. It tells us to relax, evaluate, set an intention, and take action.
Relax
Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do for ourselves in the moment is to relax. Stop. Take a breath. Take a moment to give yourself permission to do something different and remind you not to act on impulse. Take some deep, slow breaths to calm down your heart rate. Pay attention to the soothing that is happening in your mind and body.
Evaluate
Ask yourself what is actually happening around you in the moment. Focus on stating only facts. Everything doesn’t have to be figured out in this one moment. Observe what is happening to you physically, emotionally, and mentally
Set an Intention
Create a target or goal to do something. Choose a coping skill such as deep breathing, meditation, listening to music, or exercising. Ask yourself, “What do I need right now?” The intention doesn’t have to be to solve the problem right now, just to provide something healthy that can help you cope.
Take Action
Put your plan into motion. Proceed, with mindfully, making sure you are aware and mindful of the feeling you are attempting to soothe. Whatever the intention is, try to do it as calmly and effectively as possible.
Remember, these actions do not have to be the final solution to current problem. Following these steps can help you be mindful of actions that are healthier and more effective rather than making reactive, impulse decisions that can be self-destructing. These steps may seem overwhelming at first, but with practice they can be accomplished quickly and soon they become a healthy habit for coping with stress and anxiety.
