The Stress is Killing Me…What Do I Do Now? Part II

Posted on May 7, 2013

Jesus said in John 16:33, “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”  In The Stress is Killing Me…Part I, we are learning how to handle the overwhelming stress by going to the Bible, praying to Jesus and inviting God’s wisdom into our lives.  It takes a lot of willingness for us to choose to handle our trials God’s way versus our way.   More often, we want to take control of the situation without seeking God and His guidance.  Here are three more Godly ways to manage under the present stress and pressure.

Praise Him.

This may seem very odd, but God actually wants you to praise Him for your trial.  I Thessalonians 5:16-18 says, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” God wants us to praise Him for how we trust Him to help us through all our circumstances.  He desires for us to thank Him for how He gives us the resources we need to move through another day in the trial.  Look everywhere and at all times to celebrate the ways God is working in your life.  Praising Him will shift your despair into thankfulness and gratitude.

This takes a willing and disciplined heart to stand away from our woes and into our wow factor with God.  Just be willing to see His goodness and praise Him even when you don’t feel like it.  He sees your heart and knows you are trying to overcome your present state of mind.  Don’t give up and continue to believe He will show up to guide and direct your every step.  Remember His ways are not our ways. Trust him.

Seek Godly Encouragement.

“May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Romans 15:5-6. Look to ask God to bring others into your life that can support you in making Godly choices.  Be wise and discerning about who needs to know your present struggle and only listen to those who are seeking God first.  Godly encouragement can come from a pastor, counselor, Godly mentor, friend or family member.  Realize God is working to divinely appoint individuals into your spiritual path who can give you the ongoing encouragement to stay close to Him.

When we are stressed, we tend to give away our story to anyone who will listen.  It lets off temporary steam but it doesn’t relieve the deep psychic pain associated with our trial.  Sometimes well-meaning people will give us very poor advice and actually take us off the spiritual path God wants us to stay on.  Be sure to go forward to people who truly seek God first and are willing to come alongside you to provide comfort and care. This will help relieve pain you are experiencing.

Foster Care from the Heart.

When we are in our trial, it is easy to only see our struggle and no one else’s.  We tend to ponder, “Why God?”  Rather than explore “Wow, God!”  When we try to look outside of our trial and look to give to another or forgive another, we release the prison our trial has brought around our hearts.  We give a greater capacity to say, “What can I learn from this trial?” instead of blaming and shaming ourselves or others.  By allowing God to lead us from the heart rather than problem solve our trial from the mind, we will be able to love more fully and offer peace to ourselves and others.   

James 1: 2-8, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.”

Ask God to do your life His way.  In so doing, you will find ways to give to another person or organization with your time, talents and resources.  This is an amazing way God helps us to go beyond the trial.  Pray God will show you where He is already working so you can go be where He is.  Let Him divinely appoint you to where He wants you to go and give.

Be other than the world.  Choosing to follow the six strategies will appear odd and different to those who are around you.  If you want to see yourself resolving the trials in your life rather than revolving around the trials of your life, you are going to have to decide, “Am I going to do it my way or God’s way?”  The choice is yours.  Choose wisely.

 

Written by: Sally Groff, LMFT 

Sally Groff is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Registered Play Therapist in Indianapolis, IN.   She is the Clinical Director of Groff & Associates and is an AAMFT Approved Supervisor.  Her passion is to offer Godly and professional care to families.  Her desire is to celebrate great families and for our children to be ready and equipped for a bright and promised future.  Contact Sally Groff to discuss your family situation with her.

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