Ten Commandments for a Good Life

Posted on May 15, 2012

I. I am not perfect and I will not stress by trying to be.

Think of how many things don’t get done in this world simply because people are waiting for the perfect time, place and circumstance. Waiting for perfection causes more stress. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. It rewards people who get things done. And the only way to get things done is to be imperfect 99% of the time.

ll. I cannot, and will not try, to please everyone.

No matter what you do or how you do it, there will always be people that disagree with what you’re doing. That’s life. So don’t try to please everyone. Simply do what you know is right. And remember, it doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it, it matters how many people do.

III. I will take part in something I believe in.

This could be anything. Some people take an active role in their school, some find refuge in religious faith, some join clubs supporting causes they believe in and others find passion in their sports. In each case the psychological outcome is the same. They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in. This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives.

IV. I will make my obligations a priority and do important things first.

Set priorities for yourself and act accordingly. It’s the only way to get things done. It’s the only way to turn a dream into a reality.

V. I will use wisdom in choosing my friends.

Your friends are family you choose. So make sure you choose friends who are worthy of your time and attention. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.

VI. I will help others when I am able.

In life, you get what you put in. When you make a positive impact in someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life. The more you help others, the more they will want to help you.

VII. I will focus on the positive.

Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. The mind must believe it can do something before it is capable of actually doing it. One way to reduce depression symptoms is by overcoming negative thoughts and destructive emotions by developing opposing, positive emotions that are stronger and more powerful. Listen to your self-talk and replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Regardless of how a situation seems, focus on the next positive step forward.

VIII. I can only be me.

Judy Garland once said, “Always be a first rate version of yourself instead of a second rate version of somebody else.” Live by this statement. There is no such thing as living in someone else’s shoes. The only shoes you can occupy are your own. Living true to your self identity is the only way. If you aren’t being yourself, you aren’t truly living – you’re merely existing. And ask yourself this: If you don’t like who you really are, why should I like you? Trying to be somebody you’re not is not sexy. Be you. That’s when you’re beautiful.

IX. I will be here now.

Want to know how to deal with stress? One way is to remember that Life is happening right now. Instead of dwelling on the past or fueling stress and anxiety about the future, practice being and living in the present moment. Remember, right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life. Don’t miss it.

X. Life never gets any better, only my perception of it does.

The world around you changes when you change. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right. The opposite is also true. The choice is yours to make.

 

Written by: Rebecca Heger, LMHC, LCAC

Rebecca is licensed in mental health counseling as well as addiction treatment. She focuses on counseling for teenagers and help for young adults in Indianapolis. To contact Rebecca, call (317) 474-6448 x 111 or email Rebecca@groffandassociates.com.

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