Relationship Repairs

Posted on February 25, 2011

How often do families spend time repairing breaks in their homes, updating living quarters, and making improvements to the spaces they live in?  How often do those same families spend time repairing the relationships that live beneath the newly patched roof?  How often do you spend time repairing the cracks of your own life?  Day in and day out, we are surrounded by those that we love yet we rarely take the opportunity to share love through genuine, heartfelt words with those around us; especially to those we have hurt.  Below you will find a few simple phrases to use with family members that will help renovate the damaged relationships in your life.

 1.  I love you.

Whether you’ve been in a fight with your spouse or have over-reacted negatively to a situation with your child, saying “I love you” can begin to repair your relationship.  This phrase shows others that you care and are still connected to them even when you sense emotional or physical distance. 

 2.  Thank you.

Saying “thank you” after someone has shared their point of view or something intimate with you validates their ideas and makes them feel more connected to you.  Whether you agree with what was said is beside the point.  Saying “thank you” doesn’t mean you need to change your beliefs about a situation, but it does mean that you can listen to another’s ideas and appreciate what they have said.

 3.  I’m sorry.

“I’m sorry” are probably two of the most powerful words in the English language.  Not only do the words repair relationships, they also teach us the importance of putting our pride aside as we genuinely care for others in our lives.  This phrase lets others know that you recognize your responsibility in situations and that you can take ownership of the negative effects your behavior may have had on a loved one.

 If you notice that the walls in your life need repainting, please try one of the phrases listed above.  Speaking these words can be difficult at first, so take your time and be patient.  You and the relationships that need repairing in your life are worth it.

 Written By:  Kristie L. Watts, MA, LMFTA

Kristie Watts is a Marriage and Family Therapy Resident at Groff & Associates counseling in Indianapolis, Indiana.  Her passions are grief and loss, parent/child relationships, and pregnancy related struggles.  If you are interested in seeing a counselor and think that Kristie may be a good fit, please contact her at kristie@groffandassociates.com.

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