Musical Relationships

Posted on April 8, 2013

I am a piece of music.  It is a beautiful piece – God wrote it. When I allow the music to play, people nearby notice. The sound is unique and original. It has never been heard this way before. 

Relationships form. Relationships build. Relationships grow.

Occasionally, I hit the wrong note.  I notice that the listeners wince when this happens. Mistakes are always noticeable, even to those who do not understand the way music is made. If I continue on with confidence, the discord is forgotten. Joy returns to the audience.

I can attempt to live out my life as the melody.  It is lovely in its own right and can stand alone this way.  I can ignore the fact that the sound can be expanded. However, there are other notes who want to harmonize with me.  As I allow them onto my score, the beauty of the sound becomes fuller.  The added notes fill out the spectrum of sound. It becomes more complicated. It is richer and fuller.

Relationships form. Relationships build. Relationships grow.

In my inexperience, I allow other notes to join the score that are not in harmony.  The music gets lost and cannot find its way. Non harmonious notes don’t want to be there. The melody becomes distressed. It does not know what to do or where to go.

Discord is too uncomfortable. I have to go back to the simplicity of the original melody. Listen to what is needed and what is not. It does not need to be entirely uncomplicated, just carefully thought out. Some notes need to be placed on a different piece where they harmonize better. There is plenty of space for a fresh piece of music.

Relationships form. Relationships build. Relationships grow.

 

Written by: Cheryl Vance, LMFT

Cheryl is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Indianapolis. She specializes in relational issues such as personality, communication, and spiritual growth. If you would like to contact Cheryl, she can be reached at Cheryl@groffandassociates.com or 317-474-6448 ext. 106.

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